Confidence can be described as a feeling of self-assurance which arises from a person’s appreciation of their own qualities or abilities.
For those of you, who may lack a little self-confidence, let me tell you: You are unique, you are different from everyone else, no one is exactly the same and that in itself already makes all of us awesome in our own ways! Everyone has talents and there are no exceptions to that. Everyone is good at something. Some people are very good at sports, arts or music, while others may be good at math or chess. It does not matter if you are a good listener or a good speaker, if you have the ability to bring out the best in others or if you just seem to be able to inspire everyone around you wherever you go. The important part is, that no matter what you may say, I am sure there is at least one thing you are very good at and that a lot of people admire you for. You should be proud of that, whatever it may be! Own it! Be confident about it!
Confidence is the belief in one’s ability to succeed. If you believe you will succeed, you will. One way or another. It may work directly, it may take time. It does not matter. The beauty of self- confidence is, that it keeps you from giving up before you have achieved whatever you believe you will achieve. It makes you act accordingly until you have reached your goal.
In your day to day life, you come across or interact with people of different backgrounds, ages, personalities, and even professions. The main difference between them will never be where they are from, which religion they have or how old they are. The main difference between everyone you meet and interact with is whether or not they believe in themselves, whether or not they are confident about themselves. Confidence decides if you will take risks and seize opportunities, if you carry out or complete projects at school or work and if you engage in social activities. Confidence decides how you face and handle the tasks and challenges in your daily life. It determines if you let a task become a problem or an awesome new opportunity.
Confidence is all about yourself, it is about believing in you and your capabilities. You are capable of amazing things. Never forget that!
It does not matter what others think of you, what matters is, that you are not only ok with who you are but you love who you are because: If you love yourself you will love your life.
And if you are confident with yourself and you are in love with life anything is possible.
Just be true to yourself. Accept your strength and accept the weaknesses you may have to work on.
Believe in yourself. It’s your life be whom you want to be.
As Lao Tzu said: "Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the world accepts him or her."
So don’t worry about what others think, pay attention to what you think and make sure that what you think of yourself is something amazing.
So why is confidence so important? Why does it make a huge difference in your life if you believe in yourself if you are confident about yourself or not!?
Confidence helps you overcome fear
Yes, even the most confident people do experience fear every now and then. Confidence does, “unfortunately”, not make you completely fearless. Which in a way, is a simple but smart survival mechanism. In dangerous situations, it will guide our fight or flight responses and help to keep us safe and alive. It heightens the senses and keeps us alert when needed.
What is different, however, is the way confident people and well “not confident people” handle a situation in which they experience fear.
When you are confident, you are sure that you can somehow overcome the difficulties of the given situation and that all you have to do is figure out how. One wonderful trait of confidence is the belief that there is always a way. It lets you take a completely different approach at any situation you may encounter in your life.
Fear can make you express yourself less and resultantly; you may find yourself working at a job or position you hate, moving in and out of bad relationships and getting into serious debt. Mainly because you fear getting out of that situation may get you into an even worse situation.
If you are confident about yourself and your capabilities, if you believe in yourself, you know that there is something better for you out there. One reason being that you know you deserve to be happy and the other reason being that you know that you owe it to yourself to make the most out of your life. You know that it may not be perfectly easy and smooth to get out of the current situation, but you also know that no matter what, you will handle it somehow and find your way to something better, something you enjoy. It’s your life do what you want to do!
A very nice thing about facing our fears is, that every time we do face them and we manage to overcome our fears we gain even more confidence in ourselves. Theodore Roosevelt said that very accurately: "Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing."
So instead of being afraid of situations that may seem scary, we should be looking forward to them, as they make us stronger and help us grow and become the best version of ourselves.
Confidence helps to improve health and to stay healthier
Confidence makes you feel good. The better you feel, the healthier you feel. The healthier you feel the healthier you are. Our conscious and especially our subconscious mind are very smart. Our own thoughts are very powerful, which is also the reason I am such a big fan of positive “I am” affirmations, such as I am happy, I am grateful, I am lucky and so on. If we not only think something but really believe in something, our conscious and subconscious mind will try to do anything in their power to prove that our beliefs are correct. If you tell yourself things like “I am not good at this, I won’t be able to do this, I am sick, I feel bad, I am not strong enough” and so on you will be feeling down, you will be feeling bad and drained out. A lot of times you will even feel tired and as if having a headache etc. Luckily it works the other way around as well. So if you are a confident person, who believes in him-/herself and you usually have thoughts like: “I am happy because I am a happy person, I am healthy, I feel energized and motivated, I am thankful” etc. you will feel stronger, healthier, fitter, more energized and so on.
So in a way being confident and feeling healthy go hand in hand. You may have heard of different energies flowing through our bodies. The Eastern sciences such as the TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) call the energies flowing through our bodies the “Chi” or “Qi”, the life force that flows through our bodies. If the “Chi” or “Qi” is flowing easily through the body, they say we feel balanced, calm and good. Consequently, if the flow is blocked somewhere throughout the body we will feel unbalanced and unwell.
How do those energy flows get blocked and what does that have to do with confidence?
One example is that confident people usually walk up straight. They have a good body posture. People lacking self-esteem, however, often do sit and walk with bad body postures. Unfortunate body postures often lead to tense muscles, back pain, headaches and so on. Which, a lot of times also lead to being moody, having a lack of concentration, feeling tired and exhausted. I.e. the lack of confidence, hinders the smooth energy-flow which in the end may make you feel or be sick/ unhealthy/ unwell.
Kinesiology believes that the energy (chi) flows through certain pathways, the Meridians. These acupuncture vessels carry “Ying” and “Yang” energies through the whole body.
Hinduism, as well as Tantric Buddhism, believe that there is energy flowing through our bodies as well. A lot of chakra healing methods originate from these beliefs. The thought of the energy flowing through our bodies are used in a lot of meditations. Those energies are supposed to be able to heal our whole body from physical as well as mental illness.
Energy Psychology (EP) is a collection of mind-body approaches for understanding and improving human functioning. EP focuses on the relationship between thoughts, emotions, sensations, behaviors and known bio-energy systems, which also strongly believe in the flow of energy in our bodies.
The religions, practices, and beliefs mentioned are only a few examples of different views on the same subject (there are many, many more, too many to mention here, I hereby apologize in case I haven’t mentioned your favorite energy belief system). Somehow everything in our body is connected, which is why our mind, conscious as well as subconscious is so powerful. Which is why it is so important to have a positive mindset and to love yourself, be proud of yourself, be confident, be in love with your life.
Even modern scientific methods have agreed that there is energy flowing through our bodies. They call this energy “electromagnetic waves”. They say, “our brain transfers information on neurological tracks by producing tiny electrical impulses. These can be measured with scientific instruments. Where there is electricity, there are electromagnetic fields – although being of very low frequency. Scientists believe that every single cell can communicate with other cells through these electromagnetic waves. The amazing news here is that we can influence these low-frequency waves and have an impact on cells, organs, and even whole body and brain functions! Or in other words: We can consciously influence our flow and so our performance and well-being.”
Summing up, what I am trying to say is that, when you are confident, your positive mental energy is somehow channeled into your physical health regardless of age or present physical limitations.
Besides, we all know that being confident in your abilities makes you worry less about things in the future. The confidence that no matter what will come, you will find a way to handle the situation, keeps you from procrastinating. It keeps you from worrying about things, which probably are anyways out of your control. Which highly improves your mental health, your stress levels, and your overall mood. Smile ‘cause you deserve to be happy!
"Your self-confidence strengthens as you learn to speak to others, and your whole personality grows warmer and better. This means that you are better off emotionally, and if you are better off emotionally, you are better off physically." – Dale Carnegie
Confidence can lead to greater success
Confidence has a very high correlation with success. When you are confident you don’t mind going out of your comfort zone. You test, try and stretch limits regularly, due to the simple fact that you are confident to succeed and achieve what is desired or targeted. Confidence boosts convictions and this in return, gives you more chances of winning competitions, debates, cases, etc.
One thing I would like to mention here as well is that confidence does not mean that everything always works out for you the way you want it to, only because you are confident that you will achieve your goal. Even if that would be awesome, that is not exactly how it works. As previously mentioned, one of the main differences between people who are confident and people who are not is that due to the belief of confident people that they will find a way and that they will succeed they do not give in as easily as those expecting failure would do, they practice, they try different approaches, they learn. They are more open-minded to different ways of looking at a certain situation, their positive mindset helps them to skip the procrastination part and directly focus on solving whatever it is they want to solve or achieve. (While a lot of people who are not confident and expect a negative outcome will get stuck in a procrastination progress that will keep them from even reaching the part of the process where they would be able to try to solve/ handle or overcome the problem/ task/ challenge/ situation).
"One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation." – Arthur Ashe
Another important factor to success is believing. If you really believe what you are saying, what you are trying to achieve or accomplish, you will be very convincing for yourself and others as well.
Did you ever have a friend tell you about an awesome beauty product they just tired and they absolutely loved? (Trust me if someone finally finds that cream, hair shampoo etc. that really seems to make a difference for their skin, hair etc. they will definitely tell their friends about it! Actually any product they really love they will usually tell their friends about.) Do you remember the way they spoke about it? The glowing eyes, the fascinated but at the same time honest face expression? The easy flow of words when telling you about it? Can you picture it?
Now think of a sales agent in a supermarket instead, who seems shy and unsure of how to approach you. Even if you ask him about the product and he is able to tell you all the mechanic details and so on, the chance that you buy from him is quite small, unless you already heard or researched something about the product beforehand and were already sure you will buy it before entering the store. He just won’t be as convincing as your confident friend, who had confidence in himself and the product he was talking about.
Last but not least, picture a self-confident sales agent, who clearly does not even believe himself in the quality of the products he is supposed to try to sell to you. Obviously 99% of the time they won’t say it is not a good product. His job is to sell, so he will still try to tell you about some benefits this product is supposed to have, maybe how many other people have bought it already and so on. If he is a very good, very self-confident sales agent, his posture and his confidence in himself may get you to purchase the product. (But even he will never be as convincing as someone who is self-confident and actually believes that what he is selling, doing, saying, trying to achieve is a good thing. Or like your friend who was confident with himself (even if your friend is a shy person, if he is a good friend, he will feel confident around you since you are his friend) and confident in doing something good by telling you about the awesome product they just tried.)
So in my opinion, if you really want to be successful you need to not only have a lot of self-confidence but also have confidence in what you are trying to be successful in. If you have both, hardly anything or anyone will be able to stop you.
Confidence helps you to better and increase social interactions
If you are confident, you seem to radiate a certain aura of trust. You trust yourself, you believe in yourself and in in the things you are saying and doing. Naturally, this leads to other people having more trust in you as well.
Confident people normally do not mind talking. They do not mind meeting new people. They do not mind starting a conversation with a stranger. On the contrary, they usually encourage it.
They believe that whatever happens, they will be able to deal with it, learn from it and benefit from it. New situations and new encounters are new opportunities for them.
Opportunities to learn something new and to help someone else, expand their horizon, learn something or be inspired and motivated by “me”.
They commonly believe that you can learn something from everyone you encounter and that they can teach something to everyone as well.
A lot of times confident people believe in the saying that people and souls meet and cross path for a reason. Which is why a lot of confident people love our hoodie/ sweatshirt: Thank you for crossing my path.
As you project confidence, honesty, and self-respect, you will earn respect in return. Don't be surprised if you become a role model for many as a result.
Confidence helps you live a happier life
If you feel confident with yourself, if you appreciate and value yourself you will be a lot more relaxed and calm than if you do not love or believe in yourself. If you love yourself, you will love your life. It is as simple as that.
As already mentioned, confident people do not procrastinate. They focus on finding solutions. If you are not caught up procrastinating, you are able to live in the here and now. You will be able to: Start seeing the beauty in the day to day things & you'll automatically be more relaxed and happy. Trust me. There is beauty in everything. You just have to start noticing it. And once you start seeing the beauty all around you, you will start to appreciate the simple things, you won’t be able to stop feeling grateful, you will catch yourself realizing that: Today is a good day cause I chose to be grateful. You may even be thinking: Why am I smiling? Why not!?
Feeling confident is strongly associated with happiness. It gives you the needed emotional strength to face and handle life's challenges with a smile and ease.
Confidence gives greater strength and capabilities
"Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning." - Mahatma Gandhi
Confidence lets you achieve whatever you put your mind to.
Confident people do not mind criticisms. Either they won’t let it affect them at all, or if it is constructive criticism, they learn and grow stronger from it.
When faced with criticism, being confident reassures you of your power to generate positive end results rather than being discouraged.
"A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him." - David Brinkley
If you are confident, you are aware of the fact that you deserve to be happy. That you deserve to help yourself grow. That you deserve to invest in yourself and your happiness. You will be seeking new opportunities to learn new things and widen your horizon automatically.
When you have more confidence, you value yourself more and believe in your abilities and this makes you feel more valuable. With this feeling and self-esteem, you are proud of whom you are regardless of your social or economic status and it creates a natural effect of holding your head up high.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." – Eleanor Roosevelt
I know, I know. Probably you are thinking that it is great that I am telling you so detailed how awesome it is to be confident, but that this does not, in any way, help you gain more confidence.
Well no worries, now that I have given you, quite a few examples on why confidence is so important, I am also going to give you a few advice on how to gain more confidence. (IN MY NEXT BLOG POST)