“I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.” - Arthur Rubinstein
It sounds extremely familiar, we have all heard it at least once in our lives.
Yet most of us have never really stopped to think what that exactly means. It is just something we hear and just take for granted? Yes, love yourself, of course, I do that, probably. But do you?
What does it mean, when someone says love yourself?
We all yearn to be loved and to love.
Before we can give out love, it is important to let love come in.
“Respect, love and value yourself. Always remember to be good to yourself by taking care of yourself. Make yourself a priority and know that it’s okay. Don’t feel guilty for loving yourself, first! You’re just as important as anybody else.” – Stephanie Lahart
To take care of ourselves, to give ourselves a treat every once a in a while.
To accept ourselves the way we are, with our flaws as well as our strength and to love the fact that we are that way.
That we can work on our flaws, that our flaws make us just as unique as our strength.
We first have to appreciate who we are, we have to accept all different parts of ourselves i.e. our strengths and our flaws.
Loving ourselves means that we don’t have critical or negative thoughts about ourselves.
It does not mean we are selfish, as some people wrongly seem to think.
If we love ourselves, we will be capable to love others and we will be able to inspire others to do the same.
"Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is more people who have come alive." – Howard Thurman
How could that be selfish? It is helping everyone!
Accept who you are.
To love ourselves means that we simply accept the way we are and know that no matter what. we are worthy of love.
“Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” – L. Hay
Self-approval and self-acceptance are two very crucial factors in that.
An important part of self-acceptance is releasing other people's opinions, accepting that they have this opinion about us, good or bad, but not really minding those opinions. It does not serve us to worry about what others may think of us. What is important is that you accept and like the way you are. That you know you are constantly on the way to become the best version of yourself, the best version you could be.
It is a process, we always learn new things, we always improve ourselves. That is part of the beauty of being ourselves. Yes, we may not be perfect, but that is ok. That makes us who we are and as already mentioned knowing what you define as your flaws means knowing what you can work on improving.
That someone else considers something about you as a flaw is not important. Something you love about yourself someone else might not like and something you might not like about yourself someone else might love. But who cares? What should be your number one priority is that you absolutely love and feel confident with who you are. An important part of self-approval is approving of yourself, being proud of yourself. As one of our shirts/bags says: I am beautiful just the way I am and so are you! Don’t be shy to proudly shout out to the world that you love yourself. As another shirt/ bag of our collection says: I am awesome. Yes, you are, you should not only accept that but also approve of it and be happy and proud of it.
Give yourself a treat every once in a while.
Try to take the time at least once a day to do something you truly love. It does not have to be anything big, it does not have to take up much of your time.
Nurture and nourish our entire being - your Body, your Mind and your Spirit.
With our Body - eat nutritious food and exercise but also have a candy bar every once in a while, if you like them. Cook your favorite dinner, go out for a jog, do something that energizes you, pay attention to your surroundings, enjoy the outdoors as well as the company of your friends and family.
Dr. Wayne Dyer once said: “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are alone with”.
This is so true, it makes complete sense and still so many people seem to fail to realize the meaning behind this quote. If you love being with yourself, you don’t need other people’s approval and you don’t need them to spend time with you. Obviously, it is still nice to hang out with friends and family, but if they are busy for the day you will enjoy your afternoon reading a good book, dancing to the music on the radio just as much as you would spending time with them.
With our Mind - explore visualization techniques and affirmations. This is a very important factor we especially love. Your mind is an amazing thing. You can train your mind to help you love yourself, be more positive, accept who you are, laugh and smile more and help you be in love with life.
This is also the reason we love our collection that much. Our complete collection consists of clothing with positive affirmations, to help your mind consciously and subconsciously being fed with positive affirmations while at the same time inspiring others around you, who also read what is written on your clothing.
With our Spirit - meditation, connect with your higher source/ self, practice forgiveness.
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." - Buddha
Holding a grudge against someone not only affects them but also ourselves.
It makes you grinch every time you see them or think of them. It changes your current mood, you will be having negative thoughts which may result in a negative mood. Why ruin a beautiful day for something like that? Is it really worth it?
We don’t think so!
No one is perfect, maybe they have made a mistake, yes, it happens. Forgive them. They are only human as well. If it was someone very close to you, yes, you may not be able to trust them anymore as you did before. But let it go. Forgive them. Stop letting it bother you. Greet them with a smile again, give them a chance to let go as well. Move on with your life. Go back to being happy and loving your life, with or without them. Be grateful for the fact that they taught you a lesson. Be grateful for them giving you the chance to be able to practice forgiveness.
Once you start stopping and thinking about it, it will make you realize how amazing you are, how many things you have already accomplished, how many situations you have handled in a great way and how many wonderful things you already have in your life.
Keep in mind that a lot of situations that might have seemed difficult or scary at the first sight, have made you a lot stronger. You should be grateful for those as well.
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says “I’m possible!”— Audrey Hepburn
Exactly, you have done that a million times, sometimes on a smaller scale, sometimes on a bigger scale, but if you would not have come out stronger of some situations you would not be where you are and who you are today!
There are tons of things to be grateful for. No one can say they have nothing to be grateful for. If they say that, they did not take the time to really think about it. They did not manage to be honest to themselves, they are still on the way to accepting and loving their selves.
You made a mistake? Say you are sorry, admit you made a mistake, apologize, laugh about yourself, next time you will know better! Forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving someone else!
“There's a sunrise and a sunset every single day, and they're absolutely free. Don't miss so many of them.” ― Jo Walton
“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” - Confucius
Be present. Enjoy living in the present moment. Take in your surroundings. Smell the freshly cut grass, listen to the song of the birds, taste the spices in your food, feel the rain on your skin, enjoy humming to the song, notice the kind smiles of those around you, notice the kind gestures of others, enjoy the laughter you share with your friends, appreciate the time and conversations with your friends, family, coworkers, or even with strangers. Put your phone to the side for a moment. This is your life. This is reality. It is happening right now. Don’t miss out on it.
Start right now.
Live the life you've always wanted, the life you love. It is right here, right in front of you, you just have to open your eyes and mind to it. Smile at it, be grateful for it, love it!
Those are the true meanings of loving yourself.