Being happy in a world that is constantly challenging us and our decisions to feel good about ourselves and our lives can be hard, but certainly not impossible. It is all about how strongly you want to find your way back to happiness.
This can be easy if you set your mind to it. If you do little, but significant changes in your life, if guide your thoughts to be nothing but positive, you’ll soon realize how easily you can feel happy again.
Remember, happiness isn’t a goal, but a way of living. Choosing to look for happiness and embracing the feeling is what will make you fall in love with life. That being said, let’s get to the chase.
7 Ways to attract happiness back into your life.
1. Be content with yourself.
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Don' t listen to what other people may try to tell you.
"There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed." - Ray Goforth
The thing is in order to prove them wrong you need to learn that you can’t find happiness in the things around you if you aren’t truly content with yourself and who you are. True happiness starts from within and expands into the world.
Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine." - Roy T. Bennett
Have you ever thought about the life path of a butterfly? We rarely think about what the butterfly went through to get where it is and often admire the beauty of the butterfly! So it is for all of us that we must have a grand ideal for our lives and walk the path, putting one foot in front of the other.
Even if we might still feel like a caterpillar right now, we will all be beautiful butterflies sooner or later, we just have to keep going and keep faith in the fact that we also are beautiful butterflies!
Have an honest talk with yourself, figure out what you really like and dislike about yourself. Accept yourself the way you are. Appreciate what you like about yourself, make a promise to yourself to work on improving the parts you dislike. Start feeling at ease with yourself and happiness will find its way. Start thinking: I am awesome.
Don t try to be perfect, try to be authentic instead!
You are perfect because you are who you are! Embrace being yourself, you are unique, try to be as much yourself as possible that is what will make you perfectly you, which is the best version of yourself you can be!
"You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with." – Dr. Wayne Dyer
2. Define what makes you happy.
“If you want to be happy, be.” - Leo Tolstoy
Sometimes, we feel like our happiness has been taken away from us. The truth, however, is that we start pinning our happiness on material things or temporary people instead of trying to find it within ourselves.
Make yourself realize that you are the only one who can control how you feel and you will notice how much your life will improve. What do you choose?
Stop and enjoy the little things in your daily life.
A lot of times, we do things but we are not consciously present in the moment.
The whole day passed, we were busy all day but we do not remember in particular what we have done.
It is very important to do at least 1 thing per day that you really enjoy.
It is important to be present in your daily life.
While we are eating, we keep thinking about what we have to do next; while we are walking through the park, we keep thinking about where we want to go and so on.
Focus on the things you are doing at the exact moment when you are doing them.
Enjoy the silky grass in the park; enjoy the food you are eating.
Purposely treat yourself with something you love daily.
It does not have to be anything big, but try to consciously really enjoy what you are doing. Try to consciously be aware of the beauty around you.
Have your favorite chocolate today, send a text to that friend of yours and tell them how grateful you are to have them in your life. Read a book, even if, time-wise, you can only manage a chapter for the day. Do something nice. Every day.
Acknowledge the kindness of the gentlemen who held the door open for you.
Greet your neighbor with a friendly smile.
Be present in the moments of your day, enjoy being more present in your daily life, make your life more beautiful, let yourself be in love with life.
3. Make an effort to dress nicely.
A study published by the SPPS Journals (Social Psychological and Personality Science) proved that people who dress nicely feel better about themselves than people who don’t care about their appearance.
4. Surround yourself with happy people.
"At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." - Albert Schweitzer
Always try to surround yourself with happy, positive people that make you feel even better.
It is a fact, that other people’s moods can affect our own. Which is why it is so important, to be around happy people, who will lift your spirits almost instantly.
5. Do what makes YOU happy.
“Live life to the fullest, and focus on the positive.” - Matt Cameron
Doing things you love and enjoy will affect your mood just as much as being around happy people. It will relax your mind and help you find balance in your life.
You can do anything from painting to cooking, to driving with the windows down, to watching your favorite movie. The important thing here is to distract your mind and make you remember all the great things life has to offer and why you should definitely be enjoying them more often. (If you are looking for a good variety of e-courses you may want to check out this page)
6. Be here, be now.
"Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn, or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude." - Denis Waitley
A lot of times, people worry about things that have either already happened or will (might) never even happen. By focusing on those worries, they rob themselves of the joy they could have in the present instead. You can not change what has already happened, you can not always pre-plan what will happen, you can only choose how to react to situations and happenings in the actual moment they do happen. So stop wasting your precious time and energy! Practice mindfulness by focusing your attention on the here and now, enjoy the moment! Enjoy your life here and now! One song I personally love to listen to whenever I feel like I am losing focus of the present moment is: "It's my life" from Bon Jovi, perfect lyrics to get you back to focusing on the here and now. As he says: it's my life and it is now or never!
"Forget yesterday--it has already forgotten you. Don't sweat tomorrow--you haven't even met. Instead, open your eyes and your heart to a truly precious gift--today." - Steve Maraboli
7. Be grateful.
Sometimes we lose track of our happiness because we aren’t paying attention to how much we already have that we should be grateful for. Sometimes we fail to realize how incredibly lucky we are.
"Think of what you have rather than of what you lack. Of the things you have, select the best and then reflect how eagerly you would have sought them if you did not have them." - Marcus Aurelius
Just ask yourself “What are you grateful for?”, enumerate all that makes you happy, be mindful about all the great things you have in your life right now and all the amazing things that are about to come in the future.
Afterward, you’ll feel relieved and happier! Repeat this every time you feel a little down and you’ll instantly feel better. It is a quick, yet a very effective way to steer happiness back into your life.
"In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but the gratefulness that makes us happy." - Albert Clarke
Finding your way back to happiness is a road that you need to start taking today. So why not get started straight away!?