“Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.” - Francesca Reigler
“Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.” - Keri Russell
There is certainly no question about the fact that, happiness is a choice. The trick is knowing how to keep making that choice over and over again, how to choose to see the good things in everything we do, every day.
The good news is: Choosing happiness is actually simple! It is all about making slight changes in our daily lives in order to improve the way we live. It's about learning how to love every aspect of our lives and being content with the direction it is taking.
Today, we will take a look at all the factors that influence our happiness and how we can choose to be happy by making simple, yet very important decisions every day of our lives!
How we perceive happiness.
There’s a reason why people believe happiness is a choice. According to the Happiness Research Institute, there are three different ways or dimensions in which happiness is perceived:
- The Cognitive Dimension
- The Affective Dimension
- The Eudaimonic Dimension
The cognitive dimension refers to how satisfied you are with your life and current situation. It is actually the base that lets us determine whether we actually feel happy or not.
The affective dimension focuses on the emotions we experience throughout the day, which in the end, will determine if we feel as if we had a good or a bad day.
Last, but not least, we have the eudaimonic dimension, which is a bit more complicated than the first two, but in a nutshell, it is based on whether or not we feel like having a purpose in life and are truly trying to pursue and achieve that!
How we can choose to be happy.
Now that you know how we perceive happiness I am going to tell you simple, yet very effective ways to keep choosing to be happy every day. Ways that will truly have a positive impact and will allow you to feel happier in a cognitive, affective and eudaimonic way.
- Dress to be happy.
Wearing clothes that reflect the happiness you feel inside when dressing in them is the right way to keep those feelings growing and to spread the positivity to others!
- Always seek the good in every situation.
Two people can go through the same experience, but perception will determine their different outcomes. Do not get caught up in the negativity of the world. In every dark area, determine to find the light, even you have to be the light!
Life might have its ups and downs, but the important thing is to not let it bother you and to be able to always seek the good in every situation life puts us through. Like our bag says: "Every situation has good & bad it's up to you to decide what will affect you more", you are the only one who can choose which impact things and situations will have on you.
Keep in mind, there’s always a good side, there’s always a lesson to be learned from every situation! This will help you with the cognitive dimension of your happiness.
Sometimes things happen that may on the first sight not seem to be great for us. You may have missed your bus, you may have not gotten the job you applied for and so on, but the important part is that you believe, that even if you do not understand it right now, something better will come from that. Things happen for a reason and that reason is a good thing. I would like to stress the importance of the quote: “Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.” by Sonia Ricotti. Having faith in what will be, that is such an important factor. Something I had to learn first but that made a huge difference in my life is the faith that everything happens for a reason. Every time I get stressed or feel that there is a negative thought coming up, I take a deep breath and think to myself that everything happens for a reason and that I may not understand it right now but I have faith that there is a good reason behind whatever is happening. No matter if I am stuck in traffic, it starts to rain just when I am about to leave the house or my phone battery dies. I have faith that there is a reason behind things happening, I smile and try to enjoy the song on the radio in my car, the feeling of the rain on my skin or the taste of the coffee if I decided to wait out the rain, the fact that I am not focused on my phone but I can completely take in my surroundings and the beauty all around me. Keep the faith. Believe that everything happens for a good reason and your life will be a lot more relaxed and happy.
- Don’t let your emotions control you.
Remember, you choose to be happy, you choose how you feel, you are the one who controls your own emotions! If you need a little extra help remembering that, you can always carry one of our bags, such as this one: "I am happy because I chose to be" to remind you to stay positive and not let things bother you.
A very important part of not letting yourself be controlled by your emotions is letting go, forgiving others and forgiving yourself for things long gone. Don't let old emotions continue to have control over you, simply because you did not take the decision to let those feelings go, to forgive yourself and others for what may have happened in the past.
"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." - Paul Boese
- Work towards a goal.
"There are no limits to what you can achieve with your life, except the limits you accept in your mind." - Brian Tracy
As mentioned before, the eudaimonic dimension of our happiness centers around having a solid purpose or sense in our life. A wonderful way to make sure we have that is by working towards a goal.
It can be absolutely anything you want: from getting a degree (if you are looking for a variety of great e-learning courses you may want to check out this page), to getting that job you’ve always wanted, to helping people in need. Just choose to work towards that goal and give your life meaning.
We truly believe in this. We even have a shirt to prove it. A long sleeve shirt that will make you feel unstoppable once you put it on!
If you need a little assistance in achieving your goal, let me give you a small piece of advice on the way.
When setting goals, people tend to set their goals quite high and then they tend to get disappointed if they do not reach them as fast as they would wish to.
The key to setting and achieving goals is to start small and slow but efficient.
Our collection helps you keeping reminders (reminding you consciously but very importantly also subconsciously) of small but crucial goals.
Follow your dreams, smile more often, enjoy the moment, live your life right now, be grateful, say thank you more often, make compliments more often etc.
All throughout the day, our collection reminds you of small changes you need to make in your daily life (as well as it reminds those around you, which read what is written on your bag, shirt, long sleeve or hoodie as well ).
Why do we believe it is good to start small and slowly, trying to have reminders in your daily life, in order to change your life to a happier and more positive life step by step?
If you start by setting small goals, which you are sure that you can achieve, the success will nourish you and help you achieve more and higher goals in the long run.
From the psychological point of view, this is very important.
If you are not happy with your life right now and you want to be living a super happy life from one second to another it won't work. You need to change your way of thinking, you need to be more positive, you need to smile more, you need to learn to be grateful for what you have, you need to see the beauty in your daily life. Slowly implementing more positivity in your daily life, letting yourself achieve small goals, such as smiling more often, thanking people more often etc. will boost your energies, which then will lead you to be able to work on bigger goals.
You don’t need to hurry, it is not a race.
But it is more important that you do it right.
In order to be in love with life, you need to fall in love with every day again and again. Make that your goal, it is a small goal, but by achieving that, you will enjoy your big goal to be completely in love with life with its ups and downs in no time.
- Do something that you truly love.
“You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you.” - Maya Angelou
Whether it is dancing, writing, buying clothes, swimming or drinking coffee (We do have a shirt that encourages you to do things you love and be ready for the day as well!)… Whatever that makes YOU happy, try doing that as often as you can. Remember, it is always good to have a little bit of fun in between our responsibilities. Being able to do something you truly love is a fantastic way to assure you’ll be happy throughout the entire day!
Don't forget to also give yourself a treat every once in a while. Think, when was the last time you treated yourself to something nice? When was the last time you took some time for yourself to have a facial, take a long bath, take some time to meet with your friends, read a book or have your favorite dinner? Remember to have some time for yourself. Someone once told me you can not save the world if you don t take care of yourself as well. Make it a habit to give yourself a small treat every day. 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 1 hour it is up to you. You don t have to give yourself a huge treat every day if you have a busy schedule. That s ok, the important thing is, that no matter what, you can look back at your day, knowing you did at least one thing you really enjoyed and loved. Even if it just was having your favorite candy bar or sending a nice text to a friend or family member!
As you can see, happiness revolves around the little choices we are constantly making. If you work every day on making the right choices, we assure you, your days will be filled with happiness and joy.