Everyone in this world strives to make their life as amazing as possible.
I want to help you achieve this goal.
Even though the suggestions I have for you might not completely change your life, I think this advice will definitely make your life a lot easier and more amazing than it already may be. You may already be following some of these recommendations. If you are not, it might take quite some time and effort to get used to the tips I am about to give you. Especially if you are planning on making them your new habits. But I am sure, no matter what, these steps are worth taking on your way to a happier, more relaxed and amazing life.
Unfortunately, there is no perfect recipe or secret formula to instantly change your lives in a second, which I could give you. But there are definitely a lot of things everyone can work on to be more in love with their own life. If you follow these simple advice (even if you only integrate one at a time in your life), you will be able to make significant changes in your daily life.
These suggestions are not the only actions you can take to attract more happiness and balance into your life. (Otherwise, I would not be writing as many blogs as I am) But they are a few important ones which I would like to remind you of today.
Don’t let fantastic opportunities get away just because you did not know what to do or how to carry on with your life, which direction to go to make your way to the amazing life you deserve. Take a seat, relax and pay special attention to what I am about to share with you.
#1: Be organized with your time.
Yes, the very first advice is about being a little more organized. A lot of you may already be following this advice. But at the same time, a lot of you may not. We only have one life and in order to make the most out of it, we need to be able to manage our time wisely. We need to make sure we are not wasting time unnecessarily by forgetting to be a little organized at least every now and then. First of all, you have to be honest with yourself and determine what exactly are your priorities. What is the reason you would like to be more organized? Which benefits will it bring for you? What would you do if you had some additional spare time due to managing your work/ chores etc. in a smart and efficient manner? One thing that drives a lot of people to start being more organized, is the thought of having more time to spend with friends, read a book, have time to truly enjoy a coffee or a long bath. Time to give yourself a treat as I call it. I usually don’t like having to drive around more than necessary (unless they seem to unexpectedly play all of my favorite songs on the radio). Even though I generally don’t mind driving and even tend to enjoy it whenever I get to sing out loud in the car because I am driving somewhere alone, I still, somehow prefer, going for a walk, lounging on the sofa with my favorite book, taking in some vitamin D in the park etc. Which is the reason I like to be especially organized with the drives to my appointments etc.
One great way to organize your time is by keeping a planner or a journal in which you can plan your days, months and if you are truly dedicated, year. Of course, it’s ok, to simply try to start off by planning what you have to do the next day or week. If I know I have to go to a certain area of the town for a meeting, I think about what else may be in the same area that I either need to or would like to get done. Maybe it is very close to the grocery store, maybe after the meeting, I can stop and get my groceries done already. Maybe it is next to that wonderful bakery that I hardly ever go to since normally it would be a quite long drive. Well, if I am already going to be in the area, why not stop there as well?
Maybe I can arrange my dental check-up to be on the same day as something else that I will have to do in this area of the town.
One other reason I love to make a to-do list and keep a schedule is that it helps me not to forget things. Appointments that have to be scheduled way in advance may be way out of your mind once they come close. Additional tasks may come up unexpectedly and since they need to be prioritized, other smaller tasks may be forgotten. Well, not if you got your to-do list and your schedule nicely organized.
One other thing I would like to emphasize on is planning enough time for your individual tasks. I usually like to write them in my calendar with a little more time planned for them than I usually need. That way if something unexpected comes up, or I, for any reason, need a little longer to finish the task, I don’t get stressed. And if I finish it earlier, well, who does not love finishing their tasks earlier than expected and having a little time for a chitchat with your coworker, or a coffee, or simply a few minutes to not do anything in particular but just relax?
#2: Sit on a decision for at least 48 hours.
There is an old saying about not making decisions when you are angry and not making promises when you are happy. It’s a good old advice and it’s referring to not letting your emotions control your decisions.
Whenever you have a big, important decision to make (And you have enough time to follow this advice, of course) just wait about 48 hours before taking a final decision. Use this time to reflect on the situation, to think about what’s best for you, why are you planning on taking this decision... everything.
Taking your time to evaluate a situation instead of quickly jumping into a conclusion is what a grown-up, mature person would do and it’s a great advice that will ultimately make your life easier, since it will keep you from having to fix and make up for some decisions you just took due to the rush of emotions at that moment.
We have all experienced taking decisions too quickly, without actually really evaluating its consequences and we have all also had situations, where we were about to take a quick decision, were interrupted or held up for a moment and later when we wanted to get back to taking a decision for the previous matter, realized that actually after letting all the first impressions settle a little we would prefer taking a different decision than we would have taken straight away.
#3: Be your very own first priority.
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." - Oscar Wilde
“The most important thing is that you have to listen to your truths, desires and wants. And you have to believe you deserve all of it.” - Whoopi Goldberg
It is your life and nobody, meaning nobody, should come before you or be your first priority! You are your number one priority and it should always be like that, no matter what.
Now, I am not saying you shouldn’t be kind or do nice things and care about others, but you should never put your goals or dreams on hold for anybody else, or put your own happiness behind someone else's! Always look out for you and care for yourself first, then for the others.
Someone once told me a very wise phrase: You can not save the world if you don’t take care of yourself first. If you don’t take time to charge up your energy, if you don’t take the time to learn something new for yourself etc. You will not have the energy or knowledge to help someone else either. (Obviously, in this case, we do not refer to helping as in simple acts of kindness like holding the door open for someone else etc. this kind of things you can always do for others first).
Helping others and putting their goals ahead of yours, will drain you out if you do not recharge your own energy levels first, While doing the same thing, after taking care of your own needs, will energize you even more and let you smile and feel great about helping someone else.
"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined." - Henry David Thoreau
#4: Learn to say NO.
"Be who you are and say what you feel." - Dr. Seuss
This is something everyone seems to be dealing with, which can actually be seen as a big part of making yourself your number one priority.
The thing is, although a lot of people believe saying “no” is a bad thing, it truly isn’t!
Saying no every once in a while is completely necessary in order to keep your life together and stay true to yourself.
Don’t feel guilty about saying no when you don’t feel like doing something, can’t do someone a favor or don’t want to attend that boring party. It is your life, and it is too short to be wasting it doing things you don’t have time for or simply don’t want to do at all.
Besides, it honestly won’t really benefit the others on the party if you feel like someone has dragged you there for no good reason, while you really should not be there at that moment and run around all evening with that annoyed face you just can’t hide.
In that case, it really is better to stay at home and read a good book instead, while letting the others enjoy their party with all those smiling happy people around them. You are actually not only doing yourself but the other party members a huge favor by saying no in that case.
“I am thankful for all of those who said NO to me. It's because of them I’m doing it myself." – Albert Einstein
“Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things and people that stress you out.” Happy people know that they must say NO to people, ideas, and behaviors that do not serve their highest good. Saying yes to everyone and everything can lead you to feel overwhelmed, increase your stress, and leave you less time and resources to take care of yourself! This is especially true when you agree to do things that do not resonate with you or allow yourself to be pressured into situations you are uncomfortable with. The stress that results from feeling overwhelmed can severely dampen one’s happiness and well-being. Before you commit to anything or anyone, ask yourself, does this serve my highest good? If the answer is no, then learn to say NO." - Chery Lawal
#5: Work on developing more positive habits.
"If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves." - Thomas Alva Edison
This is an extremely important suggestion. A positive habit is something that brings not only more postivity and happiness into your life, but that also something that may be very useful for you to have learned, not necessarily at that stage of your life but at a later point of your life (And that you actually may start to like/love doing).
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” - George Bernard Shaw
Consider something like studying a new language, committing to reading at least 1 article about something that interests you every day or learning a new sport or maybe even learning something new like drawing or crafting. It might be just something small and simple such as making a habit of smiling at everyone you meet, or never leaving the house without wishing your loved one a wonderful day. The important factor is to make time every day to develop and practice this positive new habit. The more often you practice, the faster it becomes natural to you, the faster it becomes an actual habit and not only something you plan on doing every once in a while or becoming some time in the near future. Sure, change doesn’t come overnight, but you will be learning something useful AND gaining more positivity in your life the moment you start and the moment you stay committed and consistent with it. What more could you ask for than taking the decision and getting started and happier right away?
Why not also make a habit out of giving compliments? What does it cost to make someone a compliment? Exactly: It is free! But in return, it might brighten up the other persons day completely!
You are passing someone on the street who is wearing an awesome shirt? Tell them you like it!
Your friend is the best listener you know? Have you ever told him/her?
Your neighbors just seem to always have the most beautiful garden? Compliment them on it!
You love the way your kids seem to always help others? Tell them!
You can give compliments to anyone, even to complete strangers!
You see something someone is doing well? Tell them!
For you, it might just take you a moment but it might have a huge impact on the other persons life! Who wouldn't like getting complimented!?
Making your life even more amazing than it already may be, only depends on yourself! On your decisions, on your priorities and habits. Work on being a better version of yourself, on being even more kind. On actually pursuing your dreams and you will soon notice how your life suddenly seems to become a lot better without having to put too much effort into it at once. It is a small gradual process. The more you are in love with your own life, the easier it gets and the faster it becomes even more and more amazing.