"While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about." - Angela Schwindt
You can be anyone or anything you want
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde
In a child's mind, nothing is impossible.
Do you remember all those things you were dreaming about as a child?
Do you remember how easy it was to be anyone you wanted to be?
If you wanted to be a hero? You grabbed a towel or a blanket, wrapped it around yourself and felt like a hero!
If you wanted to be a fireman? You went outside, got that garden hose, and pretended to be extinguishing those “fearful flames”.
If you wanted to be a princess? You put on that pink dress and that crown your grandmother gave you. Whatever you wanted to be, you knew you could make yourself feel like that in the split of a second.
And not only that if you wanted to be a hero as a child, you felt like a hero, no, you truly knew that you were an actual hero. Listen to a child who wants to be a hero. If this child tells a story about a soccer game he played, he will be the hero in his story. Or listen to her story about her school day, her games with her dolls and Barbie’s, she will be the hero in those as well.
And no, those kids are not the heroes of their stories because they want to brag about themselves. They are the heroes because they want to and believe themselves to be.
Unfortunately, as we mature in age, we often seem to lose the ability to see what great heroes we are in our daily lives over and over again. Too often we seem to have unlearned how to be proud of ourselves. We seem to have forgotten that it is a good thing to have self-confidence and be glad and happy about how great we manage our daily lives. We forget how to tell others or admit to ourselves how wonderful we manage small and big things every single day of our lives.
Do you remember any of the times someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grow up? Do you remember any of your answers?
What did you want to be? A model? A police officer? An archeologist? An artist?
Did you become what you wanted to become as a child? What happened to that wish, that dream of yours?
Are you aware of the fact that you still could become whatever and whoever you wanted to if you really wanted to!? If you really set your mind to it, there is always a way!
You want to become an actress, sign up for a local acting class! Get started somewhere, if passion is what drives you, you have a long and wonderful way ahead of you!
As one of my favorite bags says: Follow your dreams and the rest will follow you!
There is no harm in trying new things and improvising when required
“You never know what you can do until you try, and very few try unless they have to.” – C.S. Lewis
Small children are not afraid of trying new things. On the contrary, they are usually looking forward to trying all those things they haven’t tried yet and that those other children seem to be enjoying so much!
They are curious to try new things, learn new things, make new experiences and try to understand new things.
If there are other people who can do it, and seem to like it, then I can do it too, and I will most certainly have fun doing it as well!
As one of my favorite shirts says: Believe in yourself, and you’re halfway there!
Children can drive you up the wall with all their questions! Are you still as curious as a child? Do you still have a passion for learning and experiencing new things?
So let’s say: you tried something new, and it did not work straight away, are you going to simply give up?
Children would not. They would try to improvise. They would try to come up with a different way to do what they want to do or get what they want to have.
They become creative and often times come up with stunning solutions!
Role play is awesome
“Play is the absence of stress.” - Poole
It is fun; it is diversified. It increases creativity and imagination (it is a great tool for visualization techniques as well by the way).
As I asked in this post “Law of attraction: A quick guide to getting what you want.”
Do you remember when you were a kid? Do know how powerful the imagination of kids is? When children role-play with other kids, pay attention to their eyes, can you see how real their games are to them? That is the trick! When is the last time you played a role play with a friend?
There are hardly any grown-ups who do, but it has two very important benefits. Number one, it is a lot of fun. Yes, you might feel a little childish at the beginning, but that is a good thing!
By the way, if you feel stuck at work and you seem to have a customer problem where you simply can not come up with a good solution. Call some of your co-workers together and play the whole problem as a small role play, it is a great way to open your eyes and mind to new solutions.
Be fearless, be confident and don’t worry what others might think
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." - Anais Nin
Children seem to always march fearlessly straight ahead.
While this may not always be good since it may lead them to fearlessly touch a hot stove and so on, a lot of adults should learn how to be more fearless and confident again. Too often adults like to stay in the comfort of only doing things they already know are easy and safe. Where is the fun in that? Where is the excitement? How will that help you move forward in life?
Too often adults fear what others may think or say about them. As a kid you did not mind, why do you bother now!? What is important, however, is what you think about yourself. Let yourself be proud of yourself again by fearlessly marching in a new, exciting and great direction.
If you struggle with self-confidence, have a read through our ebook “Why confidence is important and how to gain more of it” it has a lot of great tips & tricks on how to gain more confidence. If you are struggling to accept and love yourself, have a read through this post “Love yourself”.
But no matter what you do, start being fearless and confident again. Don’t bother what others may think. Do what is right for you. Move forward in your life. Don’t limit yourself with fears you knew as a kid already are unnecessary and overrated.
As one of my favorite bags says: I am awesome!
Express yourself freely
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." – Ralph Waldo Emerson
In a way, this one goes hand in hand with being more fearless and confident again and not minding too much what others may think of you.
“Re-learn” how to say what you think. How to be honest open and direct in a friendly manner. You do not want to do something? Say no!
Stop going on about things at length, stop beating about the bush, go back to being straight forward and honest again.
As we already explained in “5 Awesome advice that will make your life more amazing”:
“Saying no every once in a while is completely necessary in order to keep your life together and stay true to yourself.
Don’t feel guilty about saying no when you don’t feel like doing something, can’t do someone a favor or don’t want to attend that boring party. It is your life, and it is too short to be wasting it doing things you don’t have time for or simply don’t want to do at all.
Besides, it honestly won’t really benefit the others on the party if you feel like someone has dragged you there for no good reason, while you really should not be there at that moment and run around all evening with that annoyed face you just can’t hide.
In that case, it really is better to stay at home and read a good book instead, while letting the others enjoy their party with all those smiling happy people around them. You are actually not only doing yourself but the other party members a huge favor by saying no in that case.”
You deserve to have your own opinion on things. Do not hide your opinion. But be kind enough to express your opinion in a proper and friendly manner while also keeping in mind that it is just as ok for others to disagree with you as well.
By saying you should express yourself freely, I am not only referring to say what you think. I am also referring to dance when you feel like. Sing along with your favorite songs. Cry and laugh to your heart's desire.
"We are spontaneous when we are at our genuine best." - Hilary Thayer Hamann
When is the last time you did something spontaneous? Children are spontaneous all the time, and it is so much fun! Trust me on this one! Are you craving chocolate? Go and get yourself one! Getting in the car and exploring a different city for the weekend sounds crazy? Perfect! Go and pack your bags! Why not have breakfast on the balcony for once? Whichever spontaneous idea you might have, you should surely follow them more often again!
As this amazing bag says: It's the perfect time to start having an awesome day!
If you fall down, you simply get up again
"Fall seven times. Stand up eight." - Japanese Proverb
Children stumble and tumble quite often. But even if they do fall, it hardly ever seems to bother them for long. They might cry for a second, or be a little confused or sometimes even surprised, but then they simply get back up and continue on with their day as if nothing much would have happened. Remember this next time you “fall” it is ok to “cry” for a moment, but then get yourself back together, be grateful for having learned from the situation and get back up, get back to the “playground”.
Besides, most kids will proudly show you their scars or tell you how they managed to break their arm; they showcase it as if it was a badge of honor. They convert it into something representing their strength and bravery while a lot of adults try to hide their scars and dismiss them as a weakness or think it would make them less beautiful if they would let the world see them. Sadly many adults forget that our scars show what has made us as amazing as we are today and that in the same manner, all those children accept those scars we should also be proud of the fact that they made us stronger.
Never forget: You are capable of amazing things!
Don't hold grudges, forgive and move on
“Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.” –Hannah Arendt
As this great long sleeve says: Why hold grudges if you could be in a good mood instead?
Children fight and argue, but the next moment or the next day they seem to have moved on and often times they are even playing with the same playmate again. They don’t let a fight ruin their whole day. No matter how big the fight was, they move on and are quickly laughing again. When did adults stop doing that? Why do so many adults let a grudge ruin their whole day if they could have 1440 happy minutes throughout their day instead (assuming they have happy dreams while sleeping as well…)!?
Love and share unconditionally
“To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return." — Madonna
When children share their toys as well as their love, they do so for the sake of sharing and not because they expect to get something in return. They do so because they like seeing others happy as well.
They love their friends and family for who they are. They don’t care about flaws, skin color, religion, what you do, look like or believe in. They love the people unconditionally.
Ask for help
“The only mistake you can make is not asking for help.” - Sandeep Jauhar
Children know it is not only ok but actually important to ask for help if they can not do something alone. They know that they learn faster if they ask someone who already knows how to do something, especially if that person anyways is already around.
They know that it feels good to help others. They know that it usually puts a smile on the other persons face when you help them, which in return makes you feel amazing again. They know it is good to return the favor and let someone else feel great because they were able to help you.
Know how to live in the moment
Allow yourself to get completely lost in creative work
"The world always seems brighter when you’ve just made something that wasn’t there before." - Neil Gaiman
When is the last time you watched a child draw something? Or being lost in tinkering? Or performing any handicraft work as a matter of fact? They happily draw for hours!
Did you ever notice how their eyes sparkle while they completely immerse themselves in the task?
How proud they will be of their finished work? How happily they will show it to you after?
Did you ever notice with how much attention to detail most children build their sandcastles or Lego worlds?
When is the last time you did some handicraft work? When is the last time you allowed yourself to get completely lost in a drawing you made?
How about, for the next upcoming birthday, you allow yourself to craft a birthday card all on your own?
If you are having difficulties allowing yourself to have some time to get lost in doing some handicraft, choose something you could give away after as a present. That way you have an excuse for yourself until you realize how unnecessary it is for you to come up with an excuse to do something that will make you feel awesome again!
Laugh every day
"A well-balanced person is one who finds both sides of an issue laughable." — Herbert Procknow
Kids laugh at least daily. If not even more! And they love to share those giggles with as many people as possible. They are able to find joy anywhere. They laugh about small and big things, sometimes even for no particular reason at all, they laugh as much as they can just for the sake of laughing and feeling happy.
"Exercise is a celebration of what your body can do. Not a punishment for what you ate." — Women's Health UK
Children seem to have this endless energy. They run around all day playing all kinds of different games. They love to go outside, run through the sprinklers, do cartwheels, chase their friends and so on. They do a lot of exercise all day long. And they love it! It is the highlight of their day! Maybe you should call you exercise sessions playtime instead; maybe then it would be more of something to look forward to. Maybe you can add some more fun to your exercise. Add music or dance to it.
Notice the little things, see the beauty in nature, be curious
"Perfect happiness is a beautiful sunset, the giggle of a grandchild, the first snowfall. It's the little things that make happy moments, not the grand events. Joy comes in sips, not gulps." - Sharon Draper
Children stop to smell the flowers. They stop to watch the butterflies dance in the sun. They stop to listen to the music of the street artists in the shopping street. They stop to admire the rainbow and the clouds that look like people/ animals or whatever else they can imagine. Simple but wonderful things that adults in their rush to get from point A to point B often tend to oversee.
Slow down, take a walk in the forest, smell the fresh air, listen to the birds and watch them fly.
Get excited about small things, like being able to enjoy and really taste the flavor of ice cream, the same way a kid would.
Never stop to be curious, do you know where or how squirrels have or build a nest? Next time you see a squirrel watch it a little, don’t disturb it but enjoy watching and learning a little. And if you are still curious after, get on the computer, go to a library and learn something else about them. You should never lose your hunger for learning new things. It is a wonderful feature!
Who cares if the clothes get dirty if it is fun
“The mud will wash off, but the memories will last a lifetime.” – Unknown
A little dirt is no big deal! Don’t stop dancing in the rain only because your clothes are getting a little splashed. Clothing can be washed or worst case replaced. But you can not re-claim the fun you missed out in a moment already past.
Making new friends is easy
“A friend may be waiting behind a stranger’s face.” ― Maya Angelou
It is super easy to make new friends. Kids gain new friends nearly daily. All you have to do is go up to them start talking. Offer them to play with you or join your conversation. Maybe share your cake or lunch with them, a lot of times that is already all it takes.
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